When a patient comes to your office do you ask her about her bruises? Do you encourage her to tell you more about how she got her injuries? Should you? And what would you do if you discovered that her injuries were the result of domestic violence?
"Domestic abuse," "domestic violence," and "partner violence" are all terms describing a pattern of assaultive and coercive behaviors within dating, intimate, or cohabiting relationships, or even relationships that have ended. The common thread in cases of domestic violence is a pattern of controlling behaviors meant to intimidate or dominate the victim, behaviors that may include actual or threatened physical injury, sexual assault, psychological abuse, economic control, and progressive social isolation.
Every year, one to two million women in the U.S. are victims of partner abuse. According to some studies, 30% of women have suffered domestic violence, and one in seven seen in general internal medicine clinics has recently experienced domestic violence. A 1995 JAMA
study found that one in nine women, currently in a relationship, who seeks care in emergency facilities has suffered abuse that prompted that visit regardless of the stated reason for coming. That study also found that 54% of all women seen in emergency facilities have been in a violence or abusive relationship.
Domestic violence occurs in every age group, race, culture, and social class, and in all types of relationships, including lesbian and gay couples. Occasionally it is the woman who abuses a male partner. The victim and perpetrator can be dating or cohabiting, and may be married, separated, or divorced. Most victims are women in heterosexual relationships and women who are young, unmarried, and of lower socioeconomic status appear to have higher rates of victimization.
Partner abuse has complex individual, social, and cultural underpinnings. Effective intervention requires knowing more than simply how to diagnose and treat the associated medical problems. Communicating with empathy and compassion is crucial, as is being mindful of patients’ and caregivers’ emotional needs and physical safety.
Source: Hippocrates. March 2000. Vol. 14, No. 3
FACT: Battering is extremely common. The FBI estimates that a woman is battered every 9 seconds in the United States. A 1993 study found that 1 out of 20 women had experienced domestic violence in the previous year, and 1 out of 5 women had experienced it in their adult lives.
Myth #2 — Domestic violence occurs only in poor, undereducated, dysfunctional, or minority families. It could never happen to anyone you know.
FACT: Domestic violence crosses all age, ethnic, socioeconomic, religious, and educational boundaries. There is no "typical" violent family. There are doctors, ministers, psychologists, police, attorneys, judges, and other professionals who beat their wives. At least one third of all married women have been physically abused by their husbands or ex-husbands.
Myth #3 — Battering is about couples getting into a brawl on Saturday night, pushing each other around, and totally disrupting the neighborhood.
FACT: While physical abuse is common, women are also abused emotionally, sexually, and psychologically. Domestic violence is not "mutual assault" or two people yelling, scratching, and pulling each other’s hair. It is one partner beating, intimidating, and terrorizing the other. It’s one person dominating and controlling the other.
Myth #4 — The problem is not simply woman abuse, but spouse abuse. Women are just as violent as men.
FACT: In approximately 95% of domestic assaults, the man is the perpetrator. Women are 13 times more likely to be the victim in cases of spousal abuse. Sixty percent of men who were killed by their wives were killed as they were assaulting or threatening to injure or kill the woman. This fact may make us uncomfortable.
To end domestic violence, we must examine the historic and legal permission men have been given to be violent in general, and to be violent towards their wives and children specifically. There are rare cases where a woman batters a man. Survivors of abuse in such relationships must hear that their abuse is just as valid and serious. Battering also occurs in lesbian and may male relationships. Domestic violence throughout life is experienced as child abuse neglect, dating violence, spouse abuse, elder abuse, and abuse of the disabled. The National Domestic Violence Hotline states that violence is unacceptable in all intimate relationships and provides services to any person who has been victimized.
Myth #5 — Where there is violence in the family, all family members are at fault to a certain extent, and therefore all must change for the violence to stop.
FACT: Only the perpetrator has the ability to stop the violence. Battering is an attitude and chosen behavior. Many battered women try to change their own behavior and their children’s hoping that this will stop the abuse. This does not work. Changes in family members’ behavior will not cause or influence the batterer to be non-violent.
Myth #6 — Domestic violence is usually a one-time isolated incident where the abuser simply lost control.
FACT: Battering is a pattern, a reign of force and terror. Once violence begins in a relationship, it gets worse and more frequent over a period of time. Battering is not just one physical attack. It is a number of tactics (intimidation, threats, economic deprivation, psychological and sexual abuse) used repeatedly. Physical violence is just one of these tactics. Experts have compared methods used by batterers to those used by terrorists to brainwash hostages. This is called the "Stockholm Syndrome."
Myth #7 — Battered women always stay in abusive relationships.
FACT: Many battered women leave their abusers permanently, and despite many obstacles, succeed in building a life free of violence. Almost all battered women leave at least once. The perpetrator dramatically escalates his violence when a woman leaves (or tries to), because it is necessary for him to reassert control and ownership. Battered women are often very active on their own behalf. Their efforts often fail because the batterer continues to assault, and society refuses to provide needed protection and resources.
Myth #8 — Feminist propaganda says the abuser is never punished, but the community does place responsibility for violence where it belongs — on the criminal.
FACT: Most people blame the victim of battering for the crime, some without realizing it. They expect the woman to stop the violence, and repeatedly analyze her motivations for not leaving, rather than scrutinizing why the barterer keeps beating her, and why the community allows it.
Myth #9 — Drinking causes battering.
FACT: One of the myths about abuse is that it is caused by alcohol, drugs, unemployment, or the stress of day-to-day living. Although these are often factors, they can more accurately be viewed as triggers, not as causes. Many men experiencing these issues do not batter,
whereas a man who has violently attacked his wife may blame his actions on any number of incidents, even a trivial or invented one. A person who is potentially violent may drink in order to give himself an excuse for violent actions. Some men who batter when drinking later stop drinking but continue to batter, switching to some other excuse.
Myth #10 — Stress causes domestic violence.
FACT: Many people who are under extreme stress do not assault their partners. Assailants who are stressed at work do not attack their co-workers or bosses. Just as with drinking, abusers often use stress as an excuse for their violence.
Myth #11 — Men who batter do so because they cannot control themselves or because they have "poor impulse control".
FACT: Men who batter are usually not violent toward anyone but their wives/partners or their children. They can control themselves sufficiently enough to pick a safe target. Men often beat women on parts of their bodies where bruises will not show. Many assaults are planned and can last for hours.
Myth #12 — If a battered woman really wanted to leave, she could just call the police.
FACT: Police traditionally have been reluctant to respond to domestic assaults, or to intervene in what they think is a private matter. They temporarily separate the couple, leaving the woman vulnerable to further violence. Laws have been improved, but considerable change is still needed in law enforcement and the court system.
Myth #13 — If a battered woman really wanted to leave, she could easily get help from her minister or other clergy.
FACT: Some priests, clergy, and rabbis have been extremely supportive of battered women. Others ignore the abuse, are unsupportive, or actively support the assailant’s control of his partner, basing their defense on a man’s religious right as head of the household.
Myth #14 — Batterers are often good fathers and should have joint custody of their children.
FACT: Nearly 90% of children who grow up in abusive homes witness their father assault their mother. Forty to sixty percent of batterers also abuse their children. Nearly 50% of abusive husbands batter their pregnant wives with blows to the pregnant abdomen, resulting miscarriage, premature delivery, or fetal injury.
Myth #15 — If a battered woman really wanted to leave, she could just pack up and go some place.
FACT: Battered women considering leaving their assailants are faced with the very real possibility of severe physical injury or even death. Batterers deliberately isolate their partners and deprive them of money, opportunities for acquiring education, job skills, or work. This combined with unequal opportunities for women in general and lack of affordable childcare, make it excruciatingly difficult for women to leave.
This is a list of behaviors seen in people who beat their intimate partners. The last four signs are almost always seen only if the person is a batterer. If the person has several of the other behaviors (say three or more) there is a strong potential for physical violence; the more signs the person has, the more likely the person is a batterer. In some cases, a batterer may have only a couple of behaviors that the woman can recognize, but they are very exaggerated (e.g., extreme jealousy over ridiculous things). At first the batterer will try to explain his behavior as signs of his love and concern, and the woman may be flattered; as time goes on, the behaviors become more severe in order to dominate the woman.
Source: New Mexico Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Domestic violence is a significant, underlying cause of poor health and is well-documented as a serious public health issue. Domestic violence can take many forms. It can include physical, sexual, economic, emotional, social and/or psychological abuse. In addition to being at increased risk for physical harm, victims of all forms of domestic violence are at risk for other complications which eventually lead to the need for medical care and other services.
The following definition of domestic violence is generally accepted by social scientists:
"Domestic violence is a pattern of coercive behavior which can include physical, sexual, economic, emotional and/or psychological abuse exerted by an intimate partner over another with the goal of establishing and maintaining power and control."
Although the vast majority of reported victims of domestic violence are female, providers should seek to identify and screen all potential victims regardless of their gender, age or other demographic characteristics, the gender of their partner(s) or the relationship between the potential victim and abuser. Domestic violence occurs in all communities and can be found in all types of relationships.
There are numerous complications of domestic violence of which a medical professional should be aware.
Other outcomes of domestic violence that can affect physical health and well-being of individuals, their children and others close to them can include loss of housing, withdrawal of financial support, isolation or loss of contact with and support from family and friends, custody retaliation and withholding access to health care or medications.
Diagnosis of domestic violence is challenging because victims can present with a variety of symptoms and physical findings. Studies show that individuals often hope to be asked whether they have been abused and, if asked in a caring and sensitive fashion, will often discuss their history of abuse.
Domestic Violence Risk Assessment as a Standard of Care
Assessing risk of domestic violence is a requirement in some settings, for example, hospitals, local departments of social services, etc. The need for healthcare professionals to recognize and treat family violence has been formally noted by the American Academy of Family Physicians, the American Medical Association, the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology, and the American College of Nurse Midwives. In contrast to official recommendations, studies show that domestic violence assessment is still not a routine medical practice.
Additionally, health care providers do not generally recognize men as being subject to domestic violence, even when confronted by evidence of physical or sexual assault. Further, health care providers generally do not consider the possibility of domestic violence among gay or lesbian relationships or with people who are of transgender experience or who are bisexual. More often, injuries are incorrectly assumed to be the result of "lifestyle choices."
Domestic violence risk assessment is a standard of care and should be discussed in general intake procedures in all health and human service settings, including counseling and testing sites.
All discussions related to domestic violence screening should be held in private. In no instance should domestic violence discussions occur in the presence of a parent, guardian, adult or child who accompanies the individual seeking health care. Any individual escorting the person may be the perpetrator of domestic violence or may be an individual whose presence inhibits the person seeking help from discussing domestic violence with the provider. Accompanying individuals should simply be told that the provider needs to meet alone with each person and they should be asked to remain in the waiting area. In addition, if a language interpreter is necessary, such services must be provided by a professional or a party unknown to the person seeking health care.
Introducing a Discussion of Domestic Violence
Discussion of domestic violence concerns should be introduced during patient intake, medi
cal history or health assessment in a general fashion using simple statements such as:
"There are some questions that I ask all my patients because some of them are in
relationships where they are afraid their partners may hurt them."
Simple questions can also be used when screening for risk of domestic violence.
| "Do you ever feel unsafe at home?"
| "Are you in a relationship in which you have been physically hurt or felt
threatened?"
| "Have you ever been or are you currently concerned about harming your partner or someone
close to you?"
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Additional questions should be used to further assess the extent to which an individual may be subjected to various forms of abuse. Such questions may include:
"Have you ever felt afraid of your partner or ex-partner?
"Has a partner or ex-partner currently or ever:
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Pushed, grabbed, slapped, choked or kicked you?0
Forced you to have sex or made you do sexual things you didn’t want to?0
Threatened to hurt you, your children or someone close to you?0
Stalked, followed or monitored you?When an individual informs the provider of a domestic violence concern, provider support of the individual’s decision to discuss domestic violence is important. There are many ways that providers can express support and concern. Support and concern can be expressed as follows:
"I believe you."
"I am concerned about your safety and well-being."
| "I imagine this situation must be very difficult for you."
| • "You are not alone."
| "The violence is not your fault and only (name of abusive partner) can choose to stop his
or her abusive behavior."
| "No one deserves to be abused (hit, beaten, etc.)"
| "There are options and resources available."
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Referrals
Any time a risk of domestic violence is determined, providers should ensure that referrals are provided for domestic violence support services and a more comprehensive assessment of risks and needed services. Community resources can include licensed domestic violence service providers, a domestic violence hot line, licensed domestic violence programs (both residential and non-residential), support groups for victims of domestic violence, general social services, law enforcement agencies, emergency medical care and providers of legal assistance. Health and human service providers should have available a list of referral sources and telephone numbers for this purpose.
In summary, asking individuals about domestic violence can:
Help individuals get assistance and services.
Prevent severe injury and even death of abuse individuals.
| Provide individuals with an opportunity to discuss domestic violence with some one who is
receptive, supportive and able to assist.
| Save the person’s life.
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Source: New York State Department of Health
A victim of domestic violence may choose not to disclose information about an abusive relationship during a patient interview. Physicians need to accept the patient’s response and right of self-determination and to emphasize that such questions are asked routinely because of the prevalence of domestic violence. Physicians can let the patient know that they are available as a resource for her or for someone who might be abused. Physicians need to recognize that the victim may have been subjected to years of demeaning verbal abuse and that they may be the first to tell her that no one deserves to be beaten. She may be considering the information that she is being given but may not be ready to disclose abuse.
What To Do If the Patient Discloses Abuse
Affirmative answers to domestic violence screening questions should elicit a well-rehearsed response by the healthcare support staff. Of immediate concern to both the patient and the staff is an assessment of whether the patient is in immediate danger. For example, if the perpetrator is armed with a weapon and is exhibiting aggressive behavior in the waiting room, then local police as well as hospital security officers must be summoned. If the pattern of abuse has recently escalated from verbal to physical, the patient’s safety is also at increased risk. Other family members or family pets may have been threatened or harmed. The office staff must be trained to summon help in such situations.
After immediate danger to the patient has been ruled out, a medical assessment of the patient’s injuries should be completed and other safety concerns should be addressed. For example, Will the patient be able to return for follow-up appointments? Does she have access to any community support resources? Has she told her family about the abuse? Does she have a friend whom she can call, day or night, for help? Has she spoken to an advocate from her local domestic violence agency about shelter or obtaining a restraining (protective) order? If she has left the abusive relationship, is she being stalked? Has the perpetrator made homicidal or suicidal threats as consequences to her leaving? Are her children safe? A safety planning checklist for victims of domestic violence is provided below:
Safety Planning Checklist For Victims of Domestic Violence
During a violent argument
4 Move to a space where you are least likely to be injured.
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Avoid the kitchen, bathroom, garage, and rooms without an outside door.Plan ahead
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Keep emergency numbers posted.4
Work out a signal with a neighbor to call for help.4
Plan with your children. Work out a code word or signal and teach them how to call 911.4
Practice ways to get out safely.4
Park your car so that you are not blocked in.4
Make an extra set of car keys and keep your gas tank full.4
Even if you don’t think there will be a next time, plan three places you can go to be safe.4
Find out about legal options and protective orders before you need them.4
Open your own savings account at a separate bank.Put things in their place
4
Keep extra cash and clothes where you can access them safely (at a friend’s home, at your workplace).4
Make copies of important documents and keep them somewhere safe.If you have a protective order
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Keep a copy with you at all times.4
Give copies to your children’s school or daycare facility and to your employer.4
Report all violations to the police.If your partner no longer lives with you
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Change the locks.4
Install additional locks.4
Plan escape routes.4
Get caller ID.4
Work out a signal with a neighbor to call for help.4
Notify police so they know your situation.Safety at work
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Use voice mail or have someone screen your calls.4
Notify security or your supervisor.4
Make a safety plan with coworkers to deal with your particular situation.Build a network of support
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Connect with old friends. Join a support group.4
Call the local domestic violence hotline.Alcohol and drugs
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The use of alcohol or drugs reduces awareness and the ability to act quickly to protect yourself and your children. Batterers often use alcohol or drugs as an excuse for their violent behavior.Break the silence
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Tell your family members, friends, neighbors, coworkers, and physician about the abuse. Remember that isolation increases your risk.
Source: Postgraduate Medicine. Vol. 108, No. 2, August 2000